How to do therapy. A therapist’s take on a client’s role in therapy

So, I’d like to start off by prefacing that what I’m presenting in this blog is from my own professional experience and what I have learned from other clinicians. It is likely slightly different for each therapist’s style and structure.  Well, it…

Maybe It’s Grief?

Maybe it feels like disbelief, tightness in your chest, or isolation. Perhaps you’ve noticed increased agitation, irritability, and lashing out when you never meant to. Or maybe, you don’t feel anything at all.  In a culture that handles grief poorly, most of…

Anxious to Thrive

In his book, Mindfulness for Two, pioneering therapist Kelly Wilson, PhD notes that humans don’t just suffer when things are bad. We also suffer when things might be bad. We naturally and easily devote mental energy, time, and effort into considering the…

Are My Boundaries Selfish?

The old thought tape is familiar: “What if it causes a scene? What if I’m asking too much? What if I’m being too sensitive or needy?”  It can be anxiety provoking to be on the edge of expressing your needs or setting…

Keeping a Routine When Life is Not Routine

I dislike the term “new normal” when referring to the current healthcare crisis associated with COVID-19.  I believe it is meant to give comfort to people within a changing world; however, I think we need to accept that at least for the…

Social Distancing and Your Relationship

Social distancing creates interesting dilemmas for maintaining healthy relationships.  During this unprecedented time it is important to remain open with your partner as you navigate boundaries around social distancing.  Below are some tips to keep your relationship strong both now and beyond…

What to Do When You Can’t Stop Worrying

In one of my previous blog posts I discussed the differences between healthy and unhealthy worrying. However, one comment that I receive a lot from clients is, “I feel like I can’t stop worrying! How do I stop it?” So even though…

Why Meditation?

Meditation is all over the news and social media right now.  Self-care is the hot new trend, and meditation is the epitome of the self-care movement.  But why? Why meditation? What exactly does it mean to meditate and what exactly does it…

Motivation and Why It’s Overrated

In this article I’d like to present an unconventional view of motivation… and even make an argument for why the apparent need for it is over-rated. Many people have the underlying belief that in order to engage in difficult tasks they need…

Are You Doing Mindfulness Wrong?

Mindfulness is everywhere these days, yet it seems that mindfulness is hardly anywhere based on how people may be practicing it. Here are 5 questions to ask yourself to make sure you aren’t sabotaging your mindfulness practice and are getting the most…

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