How to do therapy. A therapist’s take on a client’s role in therapy

So, I’d like to start off by prefacing that what I’m presenting in this blog is from my own professional experience and what I have learned from other clinicians. It is likely slightly different for each therapist’s style and structure.  Well, it…

Maybe It’s Grief?

Maybe it feels like disbelief, tightness in your chest, or isolation. Perhaps you’ve noticed increased agitation, irritability, and lashing out when you never meant to. Or maybe, you don’t feel anything at all.  In a culture that handles grief poorly, most of…

Are My Boundaries Selfish?

The old thought tape is familiar: “What if it causes a scene? What if I’m asking too much? What if I’m being too sensitive or needy?”  It can be anxiety provoking to be on the edge of expressing your needs or setting…

Social Distancing and Your Relationship

Social distancing creates interesting dilemmas for maintaining healthy relationships.  During this unprecedented time it is important to remain open with your partner as you navigate boundaries around social distancing.  Below are some tips to keep your relationship strong both now and beyond…

Recovering From Infidelity: Do’s and Don’ts

You just found out your partner has been having an affair.  You feel hurt, betrayed, angry and several other emotions that you can’t necessarily process at the moment.  You don’t want to end the relationship, but you’re not sure where to begin…

Intentionality

Most people spend more time planning a one-week vacation than they spend planning their life. – Michael Hyatt I recently mentioned to someone that I had gone to see a show that they had been interested in seeing.  When I said it,…

The Holidays Are Like A Magnifying Glass

The holidays are like a magnifying glass. It seems that around this time of year whatever is going on in our lives appears to be magnified. Our joys can seem more wonderful, cheerful and exciting. Things seem to be even bigger, better…

Therapy is for Everyone

A couple of weeks ago,  I had a client come in stating they were uncertain if they needed to participate in therapy because they were not in crisis. She explained that when she went to therapy in previous years,  she was working…

B is for……Boundaries

B is for…….boundaries. What did you think I was going to say? If you sit in session with me you will probably hear me use the B-word… a lot. Why? Because boundaries are a crucial element to your mental health and for…

Mothering the Mother: Ways to Support Mothers During the Postpartum Period

In the days, weeks, and even months after childbirth, much of the attention and focus tends to be on the new addition.  Everyone wants to see, touch, and hold the baby. Soft voices and gentle bounces help soothe the baby when he…

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